Do you have problems in your relationship? Are you finding yourself fighting a lot, and can’t agree about anything? It’s ok. A lot of couples today feel the same way. So what to do? How to make a relationship work?
There are many kinds of love problems in a relationship, but It comes down to some main common relationship issues that I would like to talk about. I think that the reason to most of the problems in relationships is that we don’t really understand the difference between men and women and that every each of them has a different needs. Therefore there are a lot of marriage issues and high percentage of couples that are breaking up.
Men don’t listen – is that’s true?
How many times you men heard the words you don’t listen to me! Or how many times you women heard the words not now. Men are not like women. They don’t have the urge to express themselves in words like women do. Women have to- this is their nature. The question is how to find the balance, Its about the timing, and about remembering that your partner have different needs then your needs. Men will listen as much as they can if they will feel they are getting what they need.
So what men want in a woman? Man need to feel that he has the space to do the things he likes to do. He needs to feel that hes woman is taking care of him just like his mother. If hes feeling satisfied then he can give anything that hes woman wants from him and if he understand that she wants him to listen then he will.
What are the women’s needs? Woman needs to feel that the man care about her and love her. There is a big confusion about this issue and many woman ask themselves does he really love me? and maybe in the beginning of the relationship also use does he like me. But to measure if he loves you by the way he listens to you, is not always the right thing to do. You should tell him what you need and he should tell you too what he needs. This is the only way you can try to make the relationship work and get successful relationships.
I think that the best solution to relationship problems is to know the basic differences between you, and then to understand the needs of your partner. Here are 5 tips to consider:
Spend time together–
In today’s life our schedule is very busy, we can find our self with no time to breath and with no time for our partners. You need to set up a time that no matter what- you are spending it together. You must understand that relationship is just like any other business, you need to invest in it. It doesn’t need to take a long time, it can be a walk in the park, a restaurant, or a movie. Do fun stuff together.
Listen to each other –
Try to understand the other side. What do they need? What will make them happy? If you don’t know- ask them. Maybe woman needs to feel that the man listening to her. Maybe man need to feel that the woman understand him and giving him the space he need. You don’t need to give something you can’t give, but once you know and appreciate each other needs you know you both walking in the same way. This is one of the main principles on What makes a good relationship.
Arguments –
every couple argues some times. But the question is how. Try to focus on the things you have in common and not on the differences between you. And if you do argue then try the 10 minute rule. One partner say what he needs for 10 minutes, and the other one listen. Then you switch. You can do it 3 times and the whole argument won’t take more then 30 minutes. The idea is that you know that you have limited time for this situation. You can find more info here Relationship problems and solutions.
Respect – understand and respect your differences. Any person Is different, and when you live together you feel this in very high level. Don’t try to change it. Try to agree to have differences and to let your partner do things in his or her own way. Don’t force your partner do things he really doesn’t want to do. Be sensitive to each other.
Know yourself –
think about what you want from your partner, think about what he or she needs. Imagine how you like your relationship look like and what you can do to change it. Ask yourself if you are happy with your life as an individual and what you can do to improve your life. Talk with your friends and family about things that bother you. If you are happy in your individual life it can help you feel better in your relationship too.
As I said in the beginning, everyone has problems in the relationships. It takes time, energy, and patients but we can learn how to make a relationship work.
